Saturday, December 29, 2012

! ............aRe wE wAKiNg uP – A RETROSPECTION..............!



As the country mourns for the young BRAVEHEART, BREAVEHEART the name bestowed by media even falls short to measure her courage line and zeal to come buoyant against all odds, It’s a time for small retrospection. A retrospection of our inner self, a retrospection of our rationalization, a retrospection of our learning and a retrospection of the innervation called BEING HUMAN.


SO WHAT HAPPENED........................? 

 A girl accompanied by her male friend while returning after catching an evening show of the movie Life of Pie was molested and brutally assaulted by a group, sustained some serious internal injuries for almost a fortnight fought hard against all the miseries before finally succumbing to death.  May be it was the inspiring story of the movie shrewd  keenly into her thoughts that instigated her to keep her lifeboat afloat in the sea of agony and pain, positive enough to find the bank of life and justice. But unlike the movie, here everything ended on a gloomy note.


WHAT WENT WRONG......................?


Girl consorted by her male friend a little late in evening that too in Delhi (a rape capital indeed) OR girl’s fate that she met with few beasts blindly driven by their lust OR not very plausible record of capital police to establish a sense of fear among wrongdoers OR the patriarchal face of the society OR the fact that she was a girl?

One of my friend had once shared a post on facebook that a woman while giving birth to a child suffers pain equivalent to that caused by fracturing of twenty bones together. Forget the inevitable problem they face in bearing her child in womb for nine months. And when the child grows (if it’s a male child) he has a feel of male sovereignty by beholding his society. He fails to summon enough respect for her mother, sister and likewise for half the population. Riding high on his male ego, sometimes even promoting at some places that women are the least prioritized thing to be cared off, a man easily blinks behind his high held head and broad shoulders the forfeits by her mother, sisters, wife, and girlfriend. He starts treating women like an article for their need. He starts feeling like he is made to ascendant the women.

In our society her only fault was that she was a girl. A girl who faces foeticide, even before she has opened her eyes, and molestation outside the womb. A friend of mine, she hails from Delhi, keeps her Gmail status “touching mother’s feet at home and molesting woman outside…shame….shame on this creature called man”. When I asked her about this, she replied, “Men – they don’t even deserve a single good thing”. I am not justifying her views but it epitomize the level of the girl’s rage who has sacrificed or bound to sacrifice in her lifetime a lot  for few male faces to get recognition around .

New rules, effective rules can send a message of fear among crooks but its Arabian ways to solve the problem when the convicts even pelted to death by stones. Why can’t the people, be taught to respect the feminism, to accept the existence of women gracefully. It can also be a way to seize the problem. A way of eradicating the problems before they even born.

First time after KARGIL war in my life I have experienced such a nationwide wave of anguish and anger driven by a common cause, common thought & demanding for common questions. Remember the TATA TEA Ad.... “DESH UBAL RAHA HAI, AAYEGA JOSH, DUM, MITHAAS – BADLEGA DESH KA RANG”. Too many people coming together is just a beginning and even impossible can’t last long against determined and decisive efforts.

Sitting in a substation of an electrical utility located very remote from main cities / metros (the worst part of being an engineer) I can’t keep myself away from the agony and the intensifying anger. I also want to serve for the cause though I can’t participate in candle march or the peaceful protests there. How can I or someone else who feels proud to be an Indian can contribute to this undisclosed, the most needed movement? Can we even be a part of this fight for the transformation awaited?

YES, we can contribute for the cause. We can change our disposition and inspire others too. We can start respecting women, practicing the habit of not allowing any one around us harassing women. Inculcating the true human values and righteous thoughts in the growing kids could be the building blocks of a safe and peaceful India. Taking an OATH to build an atmosphere in which women can dwell and roam without any fear, providing the equality of opportunities and facilities bringing in the mental peace for them, can be our first step towards our contribution to bring down the transformation from skyline to ground realities, to make it happen.



If we could keep the fight alive, it will be a true condolence for the BRAVEHEART girl.



RIP.

10 comments:

Unknown said...

great post with thoughts,fillings..
May this revolution change the perspective of indian for FEMALES..

May her soul rest in peace and her family may have the strength to bear....

Unknown said...

great thoughts & fillings..
may this revolution change perspective of Indians for FEMALES..

May her soul rest in peace and her family may have the strength to bear....

Animesh Priyadarshi said...

I am impressed with the sentiments, the brunt of brutality was felt by the boy & the girl who were thrown as garbage after the heinous act of the beasts. But the vulnerability of the young lady was obvious! We are equal on the basis of Humanity but we need love our sisters, daughters & mothers more! As the onus lies on us because we are from the same group as the culprits were!! We will make the situation better where we are and take a repeated oath to protect any of my sisters from getting harassed in anyway, I won't keep mum!! I'll fight till last blood in my veins.

Animesh Priyadarshi said...

I am impressed with the sentiments, the brunt of brutality was felt by the boy & the girl who were thrown as garbage after the heinous act of the beasts. But the vulnerability of the young lady was obvious! We are equal on the basis of Humanity but we need love our sisters, daughters & mothers more! As the onus lies on us because we are from the same group as the culprits were!! We will make the situation better where we are and take a repeated oath to protect any of my sisters from getting harassed in anyway, I won't keep mum!! I'll fight till last blood in my veins.

Animesh Priyadarshi said...

Ek baar jarur padhe-
Damni Or Uski Maa___

Damini's last
words..........

"maa me abhi jeena chahti hu...
tere sath waqt bitana chahti hu...
mitti ka khilona nahi h ladkiya...
yahi baat m sabko samjhna chahti hu...
aksar kehte hai log har kisi par bhagwan ka hath hota hai...
fir kyo bhagwan k hath k niche ladkiyo ka ye anjaam hota hai...
jaa rahi hu aaj me tum sabko chodd kar...
phir na aaungi kabhi kisi ki beti bankar...
maa ka ek sapna tha ek din beti ke liye rajkumar aayega...
doli me baitha kar use le jayega...
khadi hokar sapne tutate dekhegi wo...
jab bhai mujhe kandhe par le jayega...
maa mai tere sath rahna chahti hu...
maa me abhi aur jeena chahti hu...
khush hua karte the papa dekh kar...
ab royenge mujhe yaad kar ke aksar...
unka u pyar se gale lagana...
mere baad koun unhe gale lagaye ga aksar...
papa me apko akhri bar gale lagana chahti hu....
papa me abhi kuch din aur jeena chahti hu...
mera bhai jab bhi raat ko soyega chup chup ke mere liye royega...
bhai ek behen jaa rahi hai magar hazaro behno ka khayal rakhna
ab soo rahi hu me apna aur sabka khayal rakhna :'(:'("
missing her ? :'(:'(:'(

Unknown said...

Well Said Krishna.....

I feel sad and depressed in an almost personal way. She wanted to be independent and successful. Her family supported her in whatever way they could. Her father sold his property to finance her education hoping that she would lead a better life than theirs. But the Indian political system does everything it can to stop common people like these from living a happy life and fulfilling their potential. The Indian political establishment is owned and run by criminals not very different than those rapists. This has to stop. We the people have to stop it. Get involved in politics ourselves. Get our hands dirty and bloody if necessary. Spread the message of intolerance. Blog, tweet, post. We will not tolerate this oppression.

Unknown said...

Well Said Krishna...I'm completely agree wid you

I feel sad and depressed in an almost personal way. She wanted to be independent and successful. Her family supported her in whatever way they could. Her father sold his property to finance her education hoping that she would lead a better life than theirs. But the Indian political system does everything it can to stop common people like these from living a happy life and fulfilling their potential. The Indian political establishment is owned and run by criminals not very different than those rapists. This has to stop. We the people have to stop it. Get involved in politics ourselves. Get our hands dirty and bloody if necessary. Spread the message of intolerance. Blog, tweet, post. We will not tolerate this oppression.

Bama Charan Dutta said...

Really great thoughts....
I like the comparision part with the LOP, it's really gettable to anybody...I personally think that most of the rapists are illiterate people and they don't relate anything,whatever they do,with their personal lives or families.So,in this case your feelings could be applied as medicine to their mental illness..

miel said...

Cant give my honest comment because what came in mind may hurt a boys ego...but one thing is sure that we girls dont belong to this world any more... we need an anther planet to live our life happily and peacefully... we mean only what a boy think about us... not what we think or want... if i follow all d rules made by society then only someone says that i am a good girl then only i could be recognize as a good girl... y there are rules for us???? y we should be worried all the times... just let it be... cos we are no one to change this society... its still on boys... when they will upgrade their thoughts then only things will change...we will just wait and watch... that's all we could do..

miel said...

Cant give my honest comment because what came in mind may hurt a boys ego...but one thing is sure that we girls dont belong to this world any more... we need an anther planet to live our life happily and peacefully... we mean only what a boy think about us... not what we think or want... if i follow all d rules made by society then only someone says that i am a good girl then only i could be recognize as a good girl... y there are rules for us???? y we should be worried all the times... just let it be... cos we are no one to change this society... its still on boys... when they will upgrade their thoughts then only things will change...we will just wait and watch... that's all we could do..